WHERE ARE YOU, HAPPINESS?

 

WHERE ARE YOU, HAPPINESS?

Have we ever thought about what happiness really is?

Was it something that changed from person to person—for you, for me?

Some people say, “If a person has a house to live in, what more could they want in this life?”

But when a person gets that, do they truly become happy? Let’s sell it, add a bit more money, buy a place from this new development, move into a slightly bigger house—the kids are grown now. Each one needs their own room; this won’t do…

Then we couldn’t fit into that big house either. “Let’s move to a house with a garden and a pool; only then will we be happier. And if we also had a summer house over there—oh, that would be perfect,” we say…

This journey can go as far as buying land on the planet Mars.

So what is the reason for this?

How did a person go from a one-room house to buying land on Mars?

Was it always like this? In the past, everyone would sit in the same room, eat and drink together, and at night a mattress would be laid out and all the siblings would sleep side by side.

Now everyone in the house has their own room. So, as the houses got bigger, did happiness grow as well?

Was happiness having everything one desired?

If so, why does happiness fade after a while, even once a person gets what they wanted?

Have we ever met anyone who said, “I’ve achieved all my desires, and now I’m truly happy”?

So where is this happiness?

For one person, it is wandering freely alone, doing whatever they want.

For another, it is skipping school and playing PlayStation at home.

For someone else, it is upgrading their car to a newer model that year.

For another, it is becoming a supervisor at work…

Why is it that the things a person receives as they grow older no longer make them as happy as the toys they got in childhood?

Does a person believe that if they have 50 toys, the 51st one will finally make them happy?

Is being happy tied to the fulfillment of our desires?

Well then, do desires ever end?

Do human desires have a limit?

Which desires, when fulfilled, make a person happy?

Or is a person happy by chasing their desires?

Aren’t the desires of the rich and the poor, the young and the old, the educated and the uneducated, the working and the non-working all different?

Is a poor person happy when they become rich, a young person when they grow older, an old person when they become young again, a rich person when they become even richer?

So, what was the goal a human being wished to achieve in this world?

To be happy and successful…

But where?

In every part of life.

In family, at work, in social life…

So if this is their only wish, and they spend their whole life pursuing it, why does a person still become unhappy?

How does a person feel happy in the sum of their life?

Is there a formula for this?

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